Thursday, October 23, 2014

A Blessing in Disguise + A Peek Into Aisley's Day

Over and over I've had to tell people about our situation with Giordy's ETS, and over and over I've heard the same sentiments.  They're all along the same lines of shocked apologies and statements of what "bad timing" this is, mixed in with well wishes and some golden advice. But honestly, there will never be a "good" time to lose a job you want. We're just choosing to see it as a good thing.
The Army gave my husband 45 days of paid leave, and it has been the biggest gift.

It's given us time to be a family. 

I don't think I've ever, in the entire length of our relationship, spent this much time with my husband. We have never had the opportunity to spend so much time to relax, with no agenda of being back on post before the end of block leave. We were always rushing around to try to visit four families in four different states in the mere 28 days a year we had to do whatever we wanted. Now, we've spent time with my parents with no agenda at all. None. We even managed to expand our scant wardrobes, and even bought...wait for it......jackets. If that isn't a wonderful farewell to Fort Irwin, I don't know what is. We didn't even have to make an entire day out of shopping or rush around like crazy people, because there are stores near here. Weird. I know.

It's let Aisley know her daddy. 

In the nicest way possible, Aisley has never been a daddy's girl. (Have hope, sweetheart, she's still little). He just wasn't physically able to spend enough time with her when he was always rushing off to work and out to the field. Now, we are equal parents.
Aisley wakes up in the morning with her daddy, and they go downstairs to play on the floor with her dogs toys while they all watch Mickey Mouse.
I make her breakfast and we switch off feeding her and making our own breakfasts and coffee once she's done playing.  (Note that her dog always, always lurks in the corner of photos)
She takes a nap and we go about our day. We have more time to enrich her life together. We take her new places daily. There
are new places to go daily. Throughout the day she's so much happier. She has more opportunities to be on the floor exploring things for herself, because she doesn't always have to be where I am. She has the opportunity to choose her daddy.
We've even taken her shooting. Twice. And she LOVED it. (In this family...we start them young)

It's strengthened our marriage. 

We were concerned. We had a huge concern that when the stress and uncertainty hit our relationship, that it would take a serious toll. While it's still possible, and probable once our schedules start to conflict, for now, it's made us as strong as ever. Why? I'm not sure. For one, every night is "date night."  We never have homework or extra things to do after work or anything to get up for in the morning. If we want to lay on the couch and watch a movie, we do. It's the little things in a marriage that matter. Besides that, I think it's validated our faith in each other. While we've always trusted each other, this is proof. We've never had such a need to be supportive of one another, and as a result, we've risen to the occasion and were more trusting and supportive than ever. If I'm being fully honest, I don't understand or love Giordy's top job pursuit or overall plan. But it works, and it's what he wants...and because of that I'm nothing but supportive. 

It's broadened our horizons. 

At the risk of sounding like fresh 18-year-olds, we can do whatever we want.  Whatever.  We.  Want.  We thought we would be spending this time being told where to move and Giordy would be assigned a new job at a new unit.  I thought my job or lack thereof would be dependent on childcare options and what kind of jobs were available.  Instead, we can go anywhere.  Either or both of us could rise to be the breadwinner.  It's to be determined who will stay home with Aisley or if she'll be in daycare.  We're forming a picture of how it will go, but for the first time ever, it's entirely up to us.

Our time in transition is a gift, not a burden.  I'm hoping that people will begin to see how great this can be for us.  We know we'll be okay.  We know we're going to make something great of our lives.  What we do in the meantime is a blessing for our family.

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